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The Churches within
our parish are special places. They give the community the opportunity
to share together in the important moments of life - the celebrations
of birth and marriage, and the commemoration and thanksgiving after
death. The churchyards that we have are also part of the remembering.
This page will give you
information about:
Christian
Beliefs:
As there are various different options for a funeral service these
days, it is important to clarify exactly what a Christian funeral
service is about. Other funerals (eg: a humanist service) presuppose
no faith on the part of the deceased, and no afterlife. Here are
some of the key beliefs that a Christian minister will bring to
a funeral service:
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All people are created by God, and therefore
life is a precious thing. |
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The Bible promises that death is not the
end |
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Jesus Christ, through his death and resurrection,
showed that the power of death has been beaten. He promised
to prepare a place in heaven for all those who follow him |
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Therefore, we will be reunited one day when,
as it says in the Bible, ‘death will be no more’ |
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God promises to comfort all those who mourn |
A Christian funeral service gathers
these elements together. Whilst there is still sadness and struggle
through faith, we can be certain of the promise of eternal life
offered to us by God’s Son, Jesus Christ; and this is cause
for hope and comfort from the tragedy of bereavement.
Locations for Christian
funerals:
Funerals take place, in the main, in three places:
Which you choose depends on a number
of issues, such as: did the deceased worship regularly at a particular
church? Did they have any specific Christian beliefs? Did they leave
any specific requests? Is there a family link with a particular
church or area?
The
Crematorium
Our local Crematorium at Crownhill has a light and pleasant chapel
area, with both organ and the opportunities for CD’s to be
played. Services run every 30 minutes on Monday and Friday, and
at 45 minute intervals on other weekdays. It also has a Book of
Remembrance, where you can have names inscribed, and landscaped
gardens.
If you expect a lot of people may
come to the service, or you want to have several tributes, poems
and hymns, we suggest that you have a service in church first, before
moving to the Crematorium for the committal prayers. This is because
a 30-minute time slot can put time pressure on a service with many
elements.
The
Cemetery
In Milton Keynes, we are sadly short of grave-space. However, there
are some cemeteries open - New Bradwell, Stony Stratford etc, and
these are run by Milton Keynes Borough Council. There is also now
a ‘green’ burial site in Olney. It is possible to have
a grave-side service in one of these cemeteries.
The
Church
We have five churches in the
parish - all equipped to deal with funerals, although only Simpson
has room for burials and cremated remains, and one other, St
Mary’s Woughton, has room for cremated remains.
Each church can provide an organist
and steward for the services.
The services would normally be conducted
by the local minister, who would spend
time with the family discussing the funeral itself. Our aim is to
provide a fitting, positive thanksgiving service, which looks back
with gladness and looks forward with Christian hope. We are glad
to suggest suitable hymns and pieces of music, as well as allow
CD’s of your favourite (appropriate) music, at certain parts
of the service.
The service obviously varies from
minister to minister, and occasion to occasion, but has these main
elements:
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Introduction and Prayer |
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Hymn (if chosen) |
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Tribute(s) |
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Reading |
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Prayers and Poems |
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Commendation and Farewell |
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The Blessing |
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Final Hymn (if chosen) |
Readings, poems, and particularly
tributes, are welcomed, as they develop the personal aspect of the
service, and all these can be discussed with the minister.
If the church service is a cremation,
the cortege of funeral cars will always drive to the Crematorium
for the final part of the service.
Churchyards
and Memorials
We have two churchyards able to take cremated remains, but only
one still able to take burials. Although a wide variety of memorials
have been allowed in the past, especially in Simpson churchyard,
new guidelines have been introduced to ensure that our churchyards
remain places of appropriate memorial and decorum.
In our churchyards we will allow: |
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Fresh flowers and bulbs |
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A 12”x 18” tablet in the garden
of remembrance |
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(Simpson only) Headstones as agreed by the
minister |
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our churchyards we do not allow: |
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White
or black marble |
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Plastic
flowers |
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Coloured
chippings |
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Toys
and pictures |
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Kerb
stones or fences |
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Plant
pots |
You
may notice that many of these things are allowed in Council
cemeteries, and this may influence your decision about the
best place for your memorial. |
Please look at the regulations
if you wish to introduce a memorial
Please help us to keep our churchyards beautiful
Planning ahead
It is good to have thought through what you would like for your
funeral arrangements. It means that your loved ones do not need
to be concerned as to your wishes. If you have the opportunity,
why not make a note of the following requests, to be placed near
your will, or other personal details:
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Burial or Cremation |
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Church service or Crematorium (if ‘Church’,
which one?) |
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Favourite hymns (if any) |
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Favourite CD’s or pieces of music |
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Donations or flowers (if donations, state
which charity) |
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Preferred undertaker/minister |
Funeral
directors:
| H W Mason and Sons |
01908-642700 |
| Matthews and Son |
01908-372700 |
| Co-op Funeral Services |
01908-646424 |
| Green Burial Company |
01234-241808/240363 |
| or consult Yellow
Pages |
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